~Love All Ways, Brother Peter
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June 29, 2007
By Peter S. Lopez ~aka Peta
Main Entry: anon•y•mous
Pronunciation: &-‘nä-n&-m&s
Function: adjective
Etymology: Late Latin anonymus, from Greek anOnymos, from a- + onyma name—more at NAME
1 : not named or identified
2 : of unknown authorship or origin
3 : lacking individuality, distinction, or recognizability
- anon•y•mous•ly adverb
- anon•y•mous•ness noun
“Few of us are anonymous so far as our daily contacts go. We have dropped anonymity at this level because we think our friends and associates ought to know about A.A. and what it has done for us. We also wish to lose the fear of admitting that we are alcoholics. Though we earnestly request reporters not to disclose our identities, we frequently speak before semipublic gatherings. We wish to convince audiences that our alcoholism is a sickness we no longer fear to discuss before anyone.Some people who are unsure of their ability to stick with their recovery may prefer anonymity. Who wants to be identified with an AA Group, then be seen getting plastered at the local tavern and feel like a weak hypocrite? Some attend 12-Steps meetings because they have to, not because they want to. They may be court-ordered, want to get into transitional housing or have another fake reason, not to save their lives. Time will tell and reveal the truth of motives. Karma always catches up.
~From As Bill Sees It: Pg. 278: Speak Up Without Fear: 1. GRAPEVINE, JANUARY 1946
Many recovering addicts hide ‘in recovery’ the same way they hid in their dope fiend days. They stretch out the whole idea of anonymity out of its original context and refuse to get involved in any controversial area of life at all, such as, social issues, political causes or community campaigns. They rest content and get complacent with just staying sober, going to recovery meetings and only being ‘in recovery’ without going out into the real rip-and-tear world to understand and change it!
Smug in their sobriety time they refuse to ever disclose their whole name, share their story in a public testimony or even get their picture taken. Out in the general community they act as if they are ashamed of being ‘in recovery’. They fail to become walking witnesses, talking testimonies and living sacrifices of the miracles of recovery in their lives and their being saved by God’s amazing grace, not their own lone efforts.
Many recovering addicts switch their obsessive-compulsive disorder over into their recovery and their whole lives revolve around recovery only. They do not develop natural talents, get involved with creative hobbies or go out in the larger community to change the things they can with progressive community action.
We do not need to publicize our membership in any anonymous group, but we all need to get a healthy well-balanced life. Let our personal examples shine out in our lives on a consistent daily basis. When anyone still ‘in the dark’ asks us where our light comes from we should take the time to explain the sources of our spiritual strength, plain and simple, without boast or exaggeration. Someone somewhere first brought us the Message and we should pass it on.
“In some sections of A.A., anonymity is carried to the point of real absurdity. Members are on such a poor basis of communication that they don’t even know each other’s last names or where each lives. It’s like the cell of an underground… I think the long-time trend is toward the middle of the road—which is probably where we should be."We cannot blindly ignore the objective connected realities of poverty, oppression and real suffering that drove many of us to escape in vain from those ugly realities by abusing drugs, then, ignore those real realities in our recovery. Many of us were raised in dysfunctional families, came out of dysfunctional relationships and we still live in a sick inhumane society that is dysfunctional in many ways, including on-going wars and rumors of war on a global scale.
From As Bill Sees It: Pg. 241: Middle of the Road: LETTER 1959
Sobriety is the gateway, recovery is the process and true spirituality is the key for a sane and sober lifestyle free from all chemical dependencies and their related evils.
We must gather our inner courage, hold onto our spiritual principles and move forward with bold aggressive action out into our local community to help make this a sane, sober and healthy world for all of us.
“Nothing matters more to A.A.’s future welfare than the manner in which we use the colossus of modern communication. Used unselfishly and well, it can produce results surpassing our present imagination
Should we handle this great instrument badly, we shall be shattered by the ego manifestation of our own people. Against this peril, A.A. members’ anonymity before the general public is our shield and our buckler.”Thus, in progressive recovery we should not be afraid to break out of anonymity when appropriate to the situation to help spread the Message. We should reach out to others, reveal ourselves in terms of what we are doing for our recovery and not be afraid of sharing with others on a global scale, especially when we are online with those who are far away in physical geographical distance. Coming together we can create and build up an atmosphere of trust, friendship and confidentiality and make lifelong friends out of former strangers.
From As Bill Sees It: Pg. 255: Wider Understanding: 2. GRAPEVINE, NOVEMBER 1960
Learning together with others around the world we can learn about the ways of other peoples, places and cultures. Via the Internet we can blaze new pathways in recovery, explore new creative ideas for common action, develop new concepts on wholistic health and add to our vast storehouse of knowledge to help all of humankind.
As we build up our self-esteem ‘in recovery’ we will find it natural in our daily normal lives to open up about ourselves to others without fear or fantasy. A high level of self-esteem with clarity, confidence and compassion should be a key component of any truly progressive recovery program. The Six Pillars of Self-Esteem are:
• The practice of living consciously
• The practice of self-acceptance
• The practice of self-responsibility
• The practice of self-assertiveness
• The practice of living purposefully
• The practice of personal integrity
~ From The Six Pillars of Self-Esteen by Nathaniel Branden
“The essence of all growth is the willingness to change for the better and then an unremitting willingness to shoulder whatever responsibility this entails.”
From As Bill Sees It: Pg. 115: Essence of Growth: Grapevine, July 1965
Ultimately, the whole recovery process is progressive in nature as it advocates and promotes wholistic healing, spiritual maturity and positive community action. As social circumstances change we must be open and flexible enough to change ourselves in order to keep up with changing times and not be left behind clinging to old past tradition. We should always be willing to stand up and speak out for our recovery and not be silent in shame. Many millions of people are still suffering from the harmful effects of assorted disorders and/or addictions. We can help many people with our 12-steps based recovery treatment programs. It is our responsibility to reach out and lend a helping hand to help others as we help heal ourselves. Indeed, we help ourselves when we help others.
"And ye shall know the truth, and the truth shall make you free.” ~John 8:32
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Note: Originally read before the CASA 12-Steps Group at the Salvation Army Emergency Shelter on Sunday, June 24, 2007 {my third year of sober recovery, in my one-day-at-a-time program). The real quality of our program in terms of spiritual growth and helping others is always far more important than the quantity in calendar time. Who wants to be around a bitter depressing dry drunk trying to keep track of plastic chips?!
<>+<>+<>+<>+<>+<>+<>+<>+<>+<>+<>+<>+<>"And ye shall know the truth, and the truth shall make you free.” ~John 8:32
c/s
Note: Originally read before the CASA 12-Steps Group at the Salvation Army Emergency Shelter on Sunday, June 24, 2007 {my third year of sober recovery, in my one-day-at-a-time program). The real quality of our program in terms of spiritual growth and helping others is always far more important than the quantity in calendar time. Who wants to be around a bitter depressing dry drunk trying to keep track of plastic chips?!
http://casa-12steps.blogspot.com/2007/06/on-being-anonymous-in-progressive.html
http://groups.yahoo.com/group/CASA-12-Steps/
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